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Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Revisited

Embracing Your Power in Marriage

Foreword by Jackie Hill Perry
Published by Health Communications Inc
Distributed by Simon & Schuster

In an update of the groundbreaking original title, Dr. Juli Slattery illuminates the power of women in marriage, with an emphasis on the uniqueness of a woman’s capacity to build intimacy.

What do you do if your husband won’t get a job? When you don’t like the way he's parenting the kids? How do you know when to stand up to a controlling husband—or if you’ve become a controlling or manipulative wife?

Many women feel lost in their marriages. They don't know what to do with their disappointment, when to ask for help, or what it looks like to let go of the need to control. Yet, God has given women incredible power in marriage—but they have to learn how to use it.

 In a complete rewrite of her bestselling book, Finding the Hero in Your Husband, psychologist Dr. Juli Slattery gently guides women to see how their attempts to manage or fix the messiness of marriage may actually undermine the very connection they want to build.

As you read this book, you will:

  • See how disappointment in marriage isn’t the end of intimacy, but an opportunity to build true intimacy that will go the distance.
  • Learn to use your relational power in a way that builds intimacy—instead of sabotaging it.
  • Recognize the ways you unknowingly sabotage intimacy by using your power to take over in marriage.
  • Understand what biblical submission isn’t and be empowered to step into the influence and responsibility you have within marriage.

Solidly grounded in biblical truth, Juli covers topics such as work, home life, conflict, and intimacy. As a mentor and friend, she offers explanations of God’s design, healthy expectations, and relatable applications that women of faith can practice to influence their marriage and deepen their relationship with God. Ultimately, Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Revisited, will help a wife more clearly see and encourage the hero within her husband by examining her own heart.

Dr. Juli Slattery is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and broadcast media professional with over twenty-five years of experience counseling, discipling, and teaching women. She's the president and co-founder of Authentic Intimacy, a unique teaching ministry devoted to teaching on God's design for intimacy and sexuality. She hosts a weekly podcast, Java with Juli, where she answers tough questions about relationships, marriage, spiritual, emotional and sexual intimacy. Juli's books include Passion Pursuit, Finding the Hero in Your Husband, No More Headaches, and Guilt-Free Motherhood. She has contributed to the New York TimesUSA TodayToday's Christian WomanThriving Family magazine, Focus on the FamilyFamily Life Today, and many other secular and Christian media outlets. She and her husband, Mike, have been married since 1994 and have three sons.

  • Publisher: Health Communications Inc (January 20, 2022)
  • Length: 288 pages
  • ISBN13: 9780757323928

“To understand and believe in the power we as women have in our marriages is a game-changer. The power to create intimacy, the power to build up, the power to help our husbands become the men that God created them to be—what a gift! This book will cause you to look at your marriage through a new lens. You will love better, trust better, pray better, and encourage better because of this book. Thank you, Juli, for this gift to marriages around the world!”

—Jamie Ivey, bestselling author and host of The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey podcast

“In truth, I cannot say enough about the beauty, power, and potency of this book. These words found me at the exact moment of need in my own marriage, and I found myself wanting to highlight line after line as simple yet profound truths were so clearly articulated. Juli has done a masterful job of weaving together personal narrative, biblical exposition, practical teaching and prophetic illumination of God’s heart and divine design of man, woman, and the mystery of marriage. These pages held keys to understanding the ‘whys’ behind some of my own angsts and helped me tangibly grasp some of the inner wirings of my husband’s complex and powerful design. I am so grateful to have this resource and am grateful for Juli’s revisitation to this timeless impartation and exhortation. I wholeheartedly encourage every woman to dive into the depths of this work, willfully inviting the Holy Spirit to minister to your heart where and how He intends. I am walking away humbled, encouraged, equipped and impassioned to continue investing intentionally into my marriage for the glory of God!”

Mo (Isom) Aiken, New York Times bestselling author of Wreck My Life: Journeying from Broken to Bold, Sex, Jesus and the Conversations the Church Forgot, and Fully Known: An Invitation to True Intimacy with God

“I’ve been married over 40 years, and I have read a lot of books on being a wife. Finding the Hero in Your Husband is a must read! I wish I had this book when I was younger. It would have saved me from making many mistakes that caused a lot of pain. Read it now! You will be glad you did, and your husband will thank you for decades to come.”  

—Ann Wilson, co-host of the Family Life Today radio broadcast and co-author of Vertical Marriage